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Because I Knew You, I Have Been

Changed For Good 

Written by: Corey Ellis, An Adoptive Parent 

 

“Because I knew you, I have been changed for good”

This is our favorite line from the Broadway Musical, Wicked, and it holds a special place in our hearts, and here is why.

Having a family that loves you and supports you in every decision you have in life is a blessing we take for granted, and we didn’t realize this until we began the adoption process. After-the-fact, the simplest of hugs means the world to us.

To our family that has been there, supported us, and rallied us on,

“Because I knew you, I have been changed for good”

Being a same-sex couple is definitely easier in today’s society, but nowhere near easy. We (Cody and Corey) began hosting exchange students a few years after forming a relationship. Over the years we learned so much from other cultures, but come to find out, about ourselves as well. So to our foreign kids, thank you. Thank you for teaching us what we needed to know, and for building our confidence in parenting.

“Because I knew you, I have been changed for good”
 

After moving to Daphne Alabama in the summer of 2018, we knew it was time to settle in and begin our family. We looked online at different options and came across APAC. It was terrifying for us to click the “learn more” option, but we knew it was something we had to do. APAC staff was helpful in so many ways, but the one way that we are most grateful for is the friendships we made.  Having other families to call when things get hard is just one of the things we are most grateful for.

After classes and home study was complete the search was on. We filtered through bios on Heart Gallery, then we came across Jaovani. Jaovani was a 15-year-old boy that everyone spoke highly of, so we knew he was the one. We had our meeting and a week later he was sleeping in his bed.
 

To the staff at APAC, DHR, and the friends that we made along the way, thank you for everything you have done to complete our family,

“Because I knew you, I have been changed for good”

It was Christmas time when we knew this is exactly where we needed to be. The smiles on everyone’s face was the best Christmas gift anyone could ask for. We were destined to meet him. We were destined to know him. We were destined to be his parents.

The momentum of this family was only starting. We purchased a home together, and even though it was hard for Jaovani, we were able to show him that whatever we do, we do it as a family. We moved in and made our house our home. We knew the time to finalize was coming just around the corner, but the unfortunate pandemic happened and pushed it back.

We waited, and waited, and waited. We finally got our date, but we were told it wouldn’t be the normal way. We met at our lawyer’s office and set up a web chat with the Judge. The web chat went smoothly, but having no friends and family in the room to celebrate was hard.

So now it’s time to introduce Javani Beshears-Ellis.

Javani changed his name and decided to hyphenate both our last names. He has been the blessing we were waiting for. Javani has been the best thing that has happened to us. He’s taught us so many things without realizing it. His grins turned to smiles, his smiles lights up our home, and our home, well it’s our home.

So Javani,

“Because I knew you, I have been changed for good”

 

 

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